St. Dymphna — The Saint Killed by Her Father Who Still Heals Geel

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A father can grieve so hard that grief turns
into something else entirely, something dark

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enough to make him do the unthinkable to his
own child. That is exactly what happened to

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a teenage girl in seventh century Ireland. Her
father lost his wife and instead of grieving

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her, he tried to replace her with his own daughter.
When she said no and ran, he sent soldiers

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across an entire country to drag her home. She
never made it home. What happened next would

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700 years later still be changing how the world
treats people with mental illness.

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Hi, my name is John O'Connor and this is Everyday
Saints. This is episode 18. If you're new here,

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a lot to a show like this. You have perhaps
never heard the name before today, but this

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is the story of Saint Dimthna. Here's the thing
you need to understand up front. Almost everything

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we know about Dimthna's comes from a single
medieval account written down roughly 600 years

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after she supposedly lived, based on oral tradition
that had already been passed around for centuries.

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There's no independent Irish record confirming
her father was a king or that any of this happened

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the way the legend says. So as we go, I want
to be upfront with you. This is church tradition,

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not verified history the way Joseph's story
is anchored in scripture or say Mother Teresa

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is anchored in her own letters. Keep that in
your back pocket as we go. According to that

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tradition, Dymphna was born in Ireland to a
pagan tribal chief and his Christian wife.

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Her mother raised her in the faith in secret
and Dymphna took a vow of consecrated virginity,

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a formal lifelong commitment to God while she
was still just a girl. Then her mother suddenly

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died and her father, well, he did not handle
it well. He fell into grief so consuming that

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his own advisors, grew worried about him running
an entire territory with that mental state.

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They pushed him to remarry, told him he needed
a new wife to pull him out of the spiral. So

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he agreed, but only on one condition. His new
wife had to look exactly like the one he lost.

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His men searched the kingdom and came back empty-handed.
Nobody looked enough like her. Then, strangely,

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He looked at his own daughter. Dymphna was the
spitting image of her mother. And in his grief

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warped mind, that stopped being a comfort and
became a plan. He decided the only woman who

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could help replace his wife was his own child.
Think about how twisted that logic actually

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is. This wasn't a stranger with bad intention
showing up at the door, busting in. This was

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the one man in the world. who was supposed to
protect her above everyone else, turning that

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same protection inside out because he could
not sit with his own grief long enough to let

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it pass through him honestly. Instead of grieving
his wife, he tried to resurrect her and the

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raw material for that resurrection was going
to be his own daughter, whether she agreed

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to it or not. When Dimta understood what her
father intended, she went straight to her confessor.

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A priest named Gera Burnas and told him everything.
Together, they made a plan to run, not just

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out of the house, not just out of the territory,
but off the entire island. They gathered a

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small group and slipped away by boat, crossing
to the continent and eventually settling near

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a small village called Gille in what's now Belgium,
close to a shrine dedicated to Saint Martin.

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For a while it worked. They built a quiet life
there. A fugitive princess and a priest hiding

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in plain sight in a village that had no idea
who she really was. But her father wasn't the

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type to let it go. He sent men out searching
and eventually the trail led them across the

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sea. The detail that gave her away according
to the tradition was money. The coins Dymphna's

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group had been using to pay for food and lodging
were Irish currency, unlike anything the local

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merchants had seen before, and that made them
easy to trace. When her father finally caught

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up to them in Giel, he didn't come to negotiate.
He gave the order, and his men killed Father

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Geraburnus on the spot. Then he turned to his
own daughter and told her, one last time, to

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come home and be his wife. She refused. So her
father drew his sword and beheaded her himself.

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Tradition holds she was around 15 years old.
Here's where the story stops being just about

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one girl and turns into something bigger. After
Dimtza's death, a church was built on the spot

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in Giel and her relics were kept there. Pilgrims
started arriving, not Taurus, but... Desperate

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families bringing loved ones who were suffering
with what we now recognize as serious mental

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illness, epilepsy, or what the era simply called
madness. They came looking for a cure at the

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shrine of a girl who had been killed by the
very kind of disturbed mind they were praying

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to be healed of. And the town of Giel didn't
turn them away. When the church and its small

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hospital ran out of room, Instead of sending
people back home untreated, local families

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started taking pilgrims into their own houses,
feeding them, housing them, living alongside

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them, sometimes for weeks, sometimes permanently
as part of the household. That single practical

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decision made by regular families with no medical
training and no grand theory about mental health

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turned into a tradition that outlasted every
king. every war and every shift in how the

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rest of the world treated people with mental
illness. For most of the history, the standard

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response to serious mental illness elsewhere
in Europe was to lock people away, chain them,

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or hide them from society entirely. Gille did
the opposite. They brought people into their

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kitchens in their spare bedrooms and treated
them like neighbors. Historians studying the

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roots of modern mental health care have pointed
back to Giehl again and again as one of the

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earliest known examples of community-based care,
treating people with dignity inside a normal

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home centuries before anyone had the vocabulary
of mental health at all. Think about what that

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actually required generation after generation.
This wasn't one heroic family doing something

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remarkable once. This was an entire town collectively
deciding over and over without any single person

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ordering them to that a stranger showing up
in the middle of a mental health crisis was

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someone you took in, not someone you turned
away from your door. No hospital did that back

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then. Most of Europe didn't do that for a very
long time after. Giehl just kept doing it,

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quietly, without ever making it their whole
identity. A grieving, violent man slammed a

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door shut on his own daughter's life, and a
whole town spent the next several centuries

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doing the exact opposite, opening their doors
over and over to strangers nobody else wanted.

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Here's something worth sitting with. Giel didn't
wait for permission. Local devotion to Dymphna

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had already been building for centuries before
anyone in the wider church formally wrote her

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story down. The earliest real historical record
of her veneration comes from the middle of

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the 13th century, around 600 years after she
supposedly died. A canon named Peter, writing

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under the Bishop of Cambrai, put her story down
on paper, and he says plainly he was drawing

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on oral tradition that was already old by the
time it reached him. Dymphna was never formally

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canonized by a pope the way saints are today.
Her sainthood is what's called pre-congregation,

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recognized through centuries of immoral local
devotion, not a single official declaration

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from Rome. And the part of the story you just
heard, the families opening their homes, took

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even longer to arrive than that. It wasn't until
roughly the 15th century, closer to 800 years

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after her death, that Gilles churches and hospital
finally overflowed enough for locals to start

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taking pilgrims in themselves. That's not a
detail that shrinks the story though. It means

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this town kept faithfully caring for people
in her name for centuries through building

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expansions, through a church that burned down
and had to be rebuilt long before the practice

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that made them famous even started. What's remarkable
isn't that the church eventually recognized

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her. It's that an entire town had already built
centuries of practice around her memory without

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needing that recognition first. The sainthood
was a confirmation of something that was already

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true on the ground, not the thing that made
it true. Let's pause here and do the truth

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or legend game like we did last week because
a story like this practically demands it. Three

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claims about Dymphna. Some hold up, some don't.
Quick heads up, Dymphna isn't a saint most

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people have ever heard of. So don't stress about
getting these right. Just take your best guess.

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And here's a tip that might help anyway. Legends
tend to tidy things up. A clean, satisfying

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detail that makes the story feel complete. Real
history is often messier and weirder than that.

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Keep that in mind as you listen. Alright, claim
number one. The very first miracles associated

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with Dimpa, people with mental illnesses being
healed at the site of her grave, started almost

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immediately after she was killed. according
to the earliest layer of the tradition itself.

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Claim number two, the famous practice of Giehl
families taking mentally ill pilgrims into

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their own homes was in an official program set
up and run by the Catholic Church as a formal

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ministry. Claim number three, that same family
boarding tradition in Giehl, regular families

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housing people with serious mental illness in
their own homes, didn't just fade into history.

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Some version of it was still going, in an organized
way, well into the modern era. All right, got

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your guesses? Here we go. Claim number one is
true, at least according to the tradition itself.

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The earliest accounts describe healings happening
at her grave almost right away. People suffering

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from what the medieval writers called madness
reportedly found relief there. That detail

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is baked into the story from its earliest known
telling, not something tacked on centuries

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later to make a better legend. Claim number
two is legend. This one surprises people. The

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Gieo tradition wasn't a church program at all.
It grew up organically, almost by accident.

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So many pilgrims with mental illness showed
up seeking a cure that the local church and

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hospital simply couldn't house them all. Ordinary
families in the town started taking the overflow

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into their own homes. Nobody designed that system
from a bishop's office. It grew out of a small

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town running out of beds and deciding to open
their front doors instead. Claim number three

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is true. That family boarding tradition didn't
stay in the Middle Ages. It kept going, generation

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after generation, and by the time historians
and early psychiatrists were writing seriously

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about it, Gille had already been doing this
for hundreds of years. They pointed to Gille

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as one of the oldest examples anywhere in the
world of a community caring for the mentally

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ill inside ordinary homes instead of locking
them away. So the legend gave the town a saint

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and that saint gave the town a reason to keep
opening their doors for the next several hundred

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years. All right, back to the porch. I keep
coming back to the two very different doors

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in this story. Dymphna's father closed every
door he had. He closed himself off from the

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grief instead of grieving it honestly, and that
closed off grief curdled into something that

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made him try to control and eventually destroy
the one person he had left. A father's love

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twisted shut, turned into violence. And then
on the other hand, You have an entire town

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that did the exact opposite thing, generation
after generation. They didn't have a doctrine

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handed down from Rome telling them to do this.
They just had people showing up at their door

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in real pain and they made a choice over and
over for hundreds of years to let them in instead

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of turning them away. I don't think that's an
accident. The same event that came from a closed

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door. grief closed off until it turned violent,
ended up producing centuries of open ones.

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And here's what gets me the most about it. Nobody
in Giel ever met Dimfah. Not one of those families

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across 700 years ever shook her hand or owed
her a personal favor. They just heard her story

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and they kept choosing generation after generation
to live like it was true. A 15 year old girl

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they never met somehow talked an entire town
into opening their front door to strangers

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for the rest of history. That's not the kind
of influence you plan for. That's the kind

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of influence you only get by refusing to give
in, once, at the worst possible moment, and

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then letting God do something with it you will
never get to see. But I wanna push on that

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a little further, because I think it's easy
to hear a story like this and follow it away

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as something that only applies to grand, dramatic
moments. Most of us are never going to face

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a moment as extreme as Denthna's. Most of us
are never going to be the reason a town changes

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how it treats people for 700 years. So it's
tempting to hear this and think, well, That's

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a nice story, but it doesn't really apply to
my life. I just don't think that's right.

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I think the door analogy works as at much smaller
scale than martyrdom, and that's actually the

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harder, more useful version of it. Grief doesn't
always show up as violence. Most of the time

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it shows up as a door quietly swinging shut
over months or years. and you don't even notice

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it closing. Somebody hurts you and instead of
dealing with it, you just get a little bit

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more guarded, a little slower to let people
in, a little quicker to assume the worst about

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someone before you even know their situation.
None of that feels dramatic in the moment.

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It just feels like self-protection. But closed
is closed, whether it's slams, or whether it

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drifts shut an inch at a time. And on the other
side of it, opening a door doesn't have to

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look like taking a stranger into your home for
the rest of your life either, the way those

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families in Giehl did. Sometimes it looks like
actually listening to somebody who's struggling

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instead of changing the subject because it makes
you uncomfortable. Sometimes it's just showing

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up for the person everybody else has quietly
stopped inviting places. You don't need 700

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years of tradition behind you to be somebody's
open door this week. So here's what I'm sitting

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with, and I want you to actually sit with it
too. Not just let it pass by while you're driving

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or doing the dishes, but is there a door in
your own life that grief or fear or old hurt

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has quietly shut? Not the big obvious ones,
the smaller ones. the person you stop texting

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back, the subject you steer every conversation
away from, the kind of pain you have decided

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is easier to manage by just not letting anyone
near it. And if you can name that door, what

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would it actually cost you to open it? Even
just a crack, even just for one person this

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week who needs somewhere to land. Maybe that's
the whole point of Dintra's story surviving

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at all. Not just that something terrible happened
to her, but that it didn't get the final word.

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What was meant to end her story quietly instead
cracks something open that's still in some

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form open today. I don't think it's a stretch
to say the same could be true of whatever door

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you are sitting with right now. It is now time
for the closing prayer. Lord, thank you for

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Dimtna and for the courage she found at 15 years
old to say no to something no one should have

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ever asked of her. For anyone listening who
is carrying grief that's turned into something

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dark and closed, soften that closed place, Lord,
before it costs someone else. And for anyone

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who's ever felt like the world has no room for
them, No door willing to open? Let them find

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a gheel. Let them find people willing to let
them in. Amen. Saint Demptha is recognized

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as the patron saint of those suffering from
mental illness, emotional disorders, and nervous

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conditions, as well as the patron of victims
of incest and family violence. Her feast day

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is traditionally celebrated on May 15th, though
the modern Roman calendar recognizes May 30th,

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the actual date of her death. Well, that's episode
18. If this one hit you a little harder than

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most, you are not alone. It hit me the same
way while I was writing it. If you know somebody

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carrying something heavy right now, this might
be the episode to send to them. Next week,

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we are headed back to a known name, one you
have heard of your entire life, but probably

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don't know nearly as well as you think you do.
I'm John O'Connor. Thanks for sitting on the

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porch with me, and I will see you next week.